the last couple weeks have been a veritable step back in all my goals. I realise that this isn’t necessarily a BAD thing, it sucks obviously, but its not especially BAD.
Basically the deal is this : My japanese has been taking a backseat to my pua stuff in the last week or so. I have been listening to lovedrops audio, reading up on all the stuff by SINN and old DD stuff aswell. Ive also been doing a large amount of non-japanese reading in general now that I have George R. R. Martins A Storm Of Swords (Omg awesome) but Ive been keeping up the japanese listening while I read all the above. Still : nothing beats reading japanese and sentence picking the good shit. So I’ve been trying to get back on the pua horse with a vengeance.
Mistakes are being made. The first and most brutal is that I am WAY too end-game focused right now. Getting an awesome girlfriend is a long-term goal that you just cant go out and “focus on”. I need to set myself short-term and medium term goals for this part of my life. This will also allow me to CUT DOWN the time spent on this part of my life so I have as much room as possible for japanese. Out in the field I am running into oldschool blocks that I thought I had dealt with. Its AA all over again and I need to work through this as a short-term goal. I have been sarging around the place, but dabbling, and still feeling the AA in alot of situations.
SO, here is my short term goal : Start a conversation with a girl I am attracted to everyday, starting today (Sunday 24th May). This doesn’t have to be one per day per se, but in a month I need 30 approaches. If you get my meaning. More is welcome. Im copying this from some other puas 30/30 club. I cant be assed looking up who exactly.
Medium term goal (1-3 months time): going on a couple of day 2s by this point.
Long term goal (3-6 months +): the asian girlfriend projects ultimate goal.
I know my long-term goal here, I need to backwards engineer it a little bit and work my way up to it. I have alot going for me but my SP and AA need to be dealt with before I can start going with the woman of my dreams. Thats just common sense.
At the end of the day this has to be a part of my life. But a small part. My goal is japanese, I want to All Japanese All The Time my way to a respectable level before I leave for Japan next year. At the same time my happiness is pretty important to me also. That happiness is gonna be diminished if I dont have a girl in my life. Some people (see: alot of my mates) have almost come to accept not having a gf and not getting laid as a part of their lives. This would be simple for me to do really. But I cant do it, because of who I am. I cant keep fucking the ug down the street and going to the bar and approaching 1 and a 1/2 sets. This isn’t in my blood. I was cut from a different quarry.
More than just a man.
