way back last year around this time, actually before this time I think, so it would be more than I year ago, I was set on finding an asian girlfriend. Fresh of the plane from japan my plan was to sarge hard untill I found someone who would fit the bill. Physically that girl is a common sight at least around university where I was planning on sarging. I did a decent chunk of sarging by my standards (see style-life challange) but I didnt really get anywhere useful. Here come the excuses. After getting back I was hanging out with Tash, a decently attractive and outgoing blonde who while a bit of a phyco druggie made the perfect fuck buddy. I knew she was gonna sleep with other guys from time to time, but I was trying for anything I could get on the side aswell. On the pill and pretty horney made her a great investment of time, money, whatever and I feel by the time she left for melb for work we had a decent connection on a meaningful level. During the last month or so she was here I had my first of two consecutive knee reconstructions. I couldn’t walk for about 2-3 months after each. around the time I had my second recon I met hiroko and kumi and started hanging out with these 2 japanese girls pretty regularily. I missed sleeping with a girl who knew what she was doing under the sheets but I satisfied and pretty happy.
Here comes the same old story again. Hiroko started getting more and more into me and I was getting more and more turned off by it all. If one person wants it much more then the other it becomes creepy and a problem. See bethania. At the end of the year I left for my trip to the states and Colombia (which deserves its own post soon I think). This gave me alot of time to think about my goals and direction. I was around all these stunningly beautiful girls but there was still something missing. Some inherent problem with the recepie. I could still appreciate their beauty and all that but I knew it wasn’t quite right. Now im repeating myself.
So now 6th of May 2009 I’m back at square one. Who knows how my life would have been better/worse If I’d found that girl way back last year. Would I truely find the happiness I felt I was missing all this time? Maybe I’ll never again be as satisfied with my life than when I was back in Japan. Next year Is too long to wait however. I dont know who said it but “If you dont like your life, change it”
Now for the how. Overwhelming force. Its an article online linked by Khatz. The same principle which he applied and that I am trying to apply for japanese learning applies to pu. The idea is this: If you take your goal and pour much more time, recourses and effort that you think is nessesary so you make success more of an automatic reaction than a drawn out push through the shit. Rather then what I did before with pickup, which was to dip my feat, read a bunch of theory and only really regularily practice on my friends and family. You take the opposite of dableing. Use all your personal recources to focus on one goal and you can simply hit that goal out of the park in one shot, so to speak. In pickup, this principle is pretty much essential to victory. I recall a video where mystry is talking about a river with two cities on either side. PUAville and AFCland. You can choose to either live in one of the two. If you wanna live anywhere between the two (dipping your feet) you are destened to drown. trying to sarge very little, take little time here and there to work on your social skills and only going on a date once a month with a new set is destened for disaster. Your going to be beating yourself up, pulling your own hair out and basically enduring an unnessesarily painful experience all for what? In the end most people give up and are left with very little. I know from experience.
You have to integrate the things that will change your life as much as possible because you MUST win. I MUST have an asian girlfriend and I MUST become good at japanese. I wont let this become counter-intuitive by treating each set like she is going to be my girlfriend. I dont NEED to pick her up, but I do NEED to open her, attract her, build a little comfort and close.
OVERWHELMING FORCE:
The first thing I’m going to do is : Find out what asian girls like, do they all consider white guys potential pair-bonds? Do they prefer guys with blonde hair? what kind of cloths/hairstyles do they prefer. I will open sets to find this out. I will also try to close any sets that look promosing despite the blatent DLV’s.
Then I will: Become “that” guy as much as possible without compromising my values. I’m happy to change my hair-colour slightly, wear different cloths, shave every day, get an ear-ring etc if its going to make me more attractive to asian girls. Looks arn’t everything, but any advantage is worth persueing.
Next I choose to: Open a pre-defined number of sets per week, only opening girls who I would consider potential pair-bonds. Around 10-15 sets a week should do it. I am going to aim as high as I can first, then work my way down the social scale. As far as when I will be opening, during my day-to-day life as much as possible, but around uni I may have to pick times to go around sarging.
How: soft-direct game. Direct game is supposed to be the best for framing relationships. This also applies to my survey period. It is direct. I will consume more than enough material on direct game to help me do it right and keep up the heat untill im dating girls.
For the next 30-45 days this is the plan. I will touch on my progress over the next days and weeks. At the end of the period (when I decide) I will evaluate where I am at with everything and tweak my approach as necessary. see you in 15 sets.
