I feel bad even putting a post up about this. The reason being that it validates the fact that facebook was actually an issue for me. To be honest the past say..6 days I have been really good with facebook. Forcing myself to only login once a day and check my stuff for 5 mins and log back out. I was using facebook for a number of good things other than wasting time. I was keeping in contact with my american boys diego and brad, chatting up a girl who I should have opened when I saw her in person but pussed out and now took the shot online (better than nothing), and I met up with a really only friend who I hadn’t seen in awhile. Beyond all that stuff I was keeping myself down to a 15 min day of facebook. Occasionally relapsing into 45 mins or so.
This is what it really comes down to: For me, who I am, my goals and plans in life; facebook just doesn’t fit-in with that. If im spending 15 mins a day on facebook thats 15 mins I could be spending learning japanese or doing some uni stuff or calling up some girl. A post by Emergency on sushiandseduction.com covers this point thoroughly. The point I wanna make is that I dont NEED facebook to reach any of my goals, dreams, aspirations so why the hell do I spend time on facebook? It goes in the same category of watching TV (in english) for me.
Dont get me wrong im all for play. Infact I think its essential to maintain a healthy balance of work and play to be happy. I will cover in a future post my use of Fiores book “the now habbit” to structure my life. Guilt free play is important. The thing is I have so many things that I can do that I would put in the “play” catagory like socializing, working out, watching japanese TV/Movies, playing japanese videogames, walking the dog (with iPod), reading a book, listening to japanese music that all help accomplish my goals in life. Facebook does not fall into this category.
This brings me to my final little piece about the whole thing, Dream. This is a guy who for 3 months went out every night sarging, he eats a really healthy organic diet and follows his strict workout regime(which has become really queer of late, he recommends 12 mins a week exercise or something stupid – totally cancelled my subscription). This is someone who I really respected because not only has he done all this stuff, changing his life in the process and documenting it all for me to enjoy but ontop of all that the guy is the same age as me. We are at the same point in our lives. We both had alot of problems with knee injuries growing up, we both used to be overweight and losers (see: World of Warcraft). And yet this guy has mastered the game, cold approached more women then most people do in their entire lives and become an awesome guy all in the same time period as I have got to where I am now. Its these parallels between us that really highlight his achievements for me. I have come along way ,yes, but this guy has RIPPED IT UP. Or so I thought… until I added him on facebook.
The guy spends alot of time on there. Its impossible to estimate how much exactly, but to the level where he would find some funny video on youtube or something and post it. He would post articles on workout gyberish he found (positive failure and weights is 10x better than cardio crap). I dont wanna get into that debate just now but you get the point. So I asked myself… if this is a guy who really has his head screwed on tight and really has his shit together what exactly is he doing online like that? Its a figgin joke, shouldnt you be sarging or reading a book or eating an organic cookie or fucking some blond 10 or something? It hurt me a little to realise that this wasnt the guy who I wanted him to be – through no real fault of his own I was massivly disspointed by it all.
So, Dream can sarge like the best, but when it comes to time management he is… average. Ill get over it eventually. In the meantime its about time I stopped looking to others to find that special something and started working on becoming that person myself. Why not? Maybe Dream should be looking up to me not the other way around. There is a new Big Dog in town.
